Good People…
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The following is another article from David Wood.
Train People to Give You What You Want
ARTICLE PART I: “Why Bother Training People?”
People love to make a contribution to us. If given a chance to do the right thing for us, or to please us, they usually will. Unfortunately, they don’t always know what we want, or their attention is elsewhere. OR, in the past when they’ve done something for us, they haven’t “won” from the experience, or been acknowledged.
If we were willing to show people what we want, in a way that was easy for them to hear, and fun for them to provide – what would life be like? In short, we could “train” people to give us what we want. If they enjoy the experience, then both parties win!
However, often we’re not ~willing~ to train. Instead, we complain that we’re not getting what we want. We resent the person for not being how they should be, or not giving us what we want. Often we’ll think: “they ~should~ know better”. Particularly in the case of women training their man in relationship: “He should know I’d rather have him take me to bed now than watch the football”.
If we’re willing to give up the notion that anyone ~should~ do anything, or know how to please us, AND accept that training is good for all, then we can have a lot of fun!
I recall the weekend my girlfriend met my parents. With zero foresight, I got a beer for myself and walked out to where everyone was sitting. Seeing my girlfriend without a drink, I instantly wished I had been more thoughtful and gotten her a drink. She could have said something sarcastic like: “Thanks darling”, or “Don’t worry I’ll get it myself”.
However, I was surprised to hear her say: “Oh, what a great idea. Could I have a wine please?”
You see, she could have been upset that her man wasn’t thinking of her. Maybe she ~was~! But she didn’t act from that. Instead, she
1) Found me right for having a good idea,
2) Gave me something easy to do, and
3) Thanked me at the end. We both got to win.
Welcome to The Training Cycle.
The Training Cycle can be used with anyone – colleagues, your manager, your secretary, parents, your kids, your spouse.
I know a female teacher in New York who taught 15 year old boys. In the beginning, they were aggressive and rude – deliberately disobeying instructions. However, after 6-12 months of the training cycle, they were competing to see who would be chosen to do what she asked!
David Wood is a Professional Life Coach, and author of the powerful Free Download: ‘50 Life Coaching Questions to Take Control of Your Life and Help Your Clients‘. He helps coaches, consultants, speakers and trainers to build their businesses via his popular ebook: “10 Super Coaches Share Their Secrets” and his audio ebook: “Getting Your First 50 Clients“.
“David Wood is a personal and business coach, and an original founder of the International Coach Academy – a global coach training school”
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